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Hook-up safer campaign

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Hooking-up is about connection, intimacy, affirmation, and fun. For most of us, it is but — when things go wrong — it’s only afterwards we think about making better choices.

We should learn from these experiences — and learn from each other — because some hook-ups have resulted in tragic consequences.

So, whether you’re new to hooking-up - or been around the block a few times - here are our tips for safer hook-ups

  • If you’re sexually active: your sexual health matters. This includes condoms and lube, PrEP, U=U, check-ups, and STI self-test kits.
  • If a hook-up doesn’t feel right: don’t think with your cock! Think twice before agreeing to meet up.
  • Let someone know where you’re going. Keep your phone charged, and keep the location GPS on.
  • Have an exit plan home, keeping money or cards in a safe place.
  • Sex should be consensual. That’s both of you, not just one of you, and you can change your mind anytime.
  • If you use drugs: know what and how much you’re taking. Pace yourself, and take breaks.
  • Be aware that some drugs are odourless and tasteless, and have been used to spike drinks and lube.
  • When calling the emergency services for an ambulance, be aware the police may also attend.
  • Know where to get professional help and support should you need it. If in doubt, phone a helpline or ask a friend.
  • Know your rights and where to get legal help in the event you are questioned and/ or arrested by the police.
  • All hate crime matters so report it to the police or through a third party.
  • When hook-ups don’t go to plan, we often don’t talk about them when they go wrong. Chatting it through with a friend can help.

GAY MENMore on safer hook-ups and cruising

Safer Hook-Ups
Cruising Grounds
Street Safety

Useful  links to other parts of this website

Consent and sex
Violence, sexual assault and rape
Reporting hate crime and hate crime support
LGBT+ Helplines

Drug, alcohol and chemsex service listings
Your sexual health
London sexual health services | Self-test kits
Accident and emergency (A&E)

Being online
Catfishing
Gaslighting

PLAY SAFERSafer chemsex

Play Safer
Safer drug use (harm reduction)
Calling 999 and the police
 Drugs and the law and legal help
Safer chemsex


Hook-Up Safer video to spearhead campaign from March 2021.

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