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Self-help information and resources
- Mind management I Survivors UK
- Managing difficulties | Living Well
- A self-help guide for males who have been sexually abused | Survivors, West Yorkshire
- A Resource for male survivors of sexual abuse | Survivors UK and London Survivors Gateway (LSG)
- Male survivors of rape and sexual assault | RSVP Project
- Male survivors of rape and sexual assault: myths and misconceptions | RSVP Project
- Self-help library | Male Survivors Partnership
Self-help resources for abuse, alcohol, anxiety, bereavement, controlling anger, depression and low mood, domestic violence, eating disorders, panic, post traumatic stress, self harm, social anxiety, sleep problems and stress
Personal safety | Suzy Lamplugh Trust
Domestic violence | Stonewall
LGBT Domestic Abuse Partnership | LGBT Domestic Abuse Partnership
This is not an excuse | Avon and Somerset Police
What consent looks like | USA | RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network)
News, articles ans studies
Mapping the landscape of male-on-male rape in London: an analysis of cases involving male victims reported between 2005 and 2012 | Benjamin A. Hine et al | 25 Oct 2020
"Male-on-male rape remains an under-researched area, and little is known about the characteristics and outcomes of this type of crime. This study examines 122 rape cases involving young adult and adult male victims reported to the London Metropolitan Police Service between 2005 and 2012. Overall, there were a number of similarities with cases involving female victims; however, male cases were more likely to involve strangers, substance use, and a victim with mental health issues, alluding to specific vulnerabilities. Moreover, younger victims, victims with poor mental health, and victims who had consumed alcohol or drugs were less likely to have their cases referred to prosecutors and more likely to be ‘nocrimed’ by police. This paper provides unique insight into the profile and trajectories of male-on-male rape cases, and preliminary recommendations for both police practice and future research are provided."
Young, vulnerable and new to a big city: I became the target of an online predator | National Student Pride | 20 Feb 2020
What Kevin Spacey’s sexual assault charge and gay bars have in common | Out (US) | 10 Jan 2019
Non-consensual sex is a recurrent problem in the chemsex environment | nam aidsmap | 9 Apr 2018
Chemsex exemplifies much wider issues with drugs and sexual consent | The Conversation | 3 Apr 2018
Why hasn’t the gay community had a #MeToo moment? | The Guardian | 7 Mar 2018
Consent: Why is it still such a big issue in gay clubs? | Gaydar Insider | 1 March 2018
The buts of butts: why we need to talk about the complexity of consent as gay men | Huff Post | 10 Nov 2017
Consent and chemsex information for gay and bi men in London | GALOP/ Survivors UK/ London Friend
Consent and the gay community | GMFA | FS 2017, FS 162
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How gay men normalize sexual assault by Phillip Henry | 17 Nov 2017
In the bonfire that has been sexual assault allegations over the past few weeks, a lot of chatter has kept the fire burning and, as gay men, what we don’t talk about is that Kevin Spacey and George Takei are part of a much larger issue: The gay community has made sexual assault an appealing and casual art form. Gay culture doesn’t just tolerate sexual assaults, it encourages them, particularly in gay bars; it’s a pervasive problem that we need to take responsibility for. Many of us have been there. We’re all too familiar with the caressing touch of a strange hand on our butts in the club and, personally, I’ve become accustomed to the unwanted crotch grabs from men I barely know, if at all.
Sexual assault affects every community, but the gay community has had particular difficulty confronting it because its victims can also be perpetrators. Sexuality and sexual expression are huge parts of gay culture and many of the spaces gay men create for themselves are hypersexualized. Advertisements for gay nightlife or events frequently feature hot dudes in states of undress and, in the clubs, muscle-clad gogo boys dance on the bar for our entertainment. If there isn’t a chance we might get laid, you can almost guarantee many of us won’t be going. However, these spaces do and should represent more than just lust and sex. They are sanctuaries of our culture. In the heterosexual-dominated spaces of the outside world, we might be subjected to bigotry for expressing our sexuality. Gay bars and gay venues offer a safe environment to celebrate our sexuality, free of judgment. Yet as we’ve built fences to protect us from the hatred of the outside world, we’ve forgotten the need to protect the people inside of it as well.
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