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Though millions watch it, pornography within society remains a charged issue. Over 1,000 people completed a porn survey for GMFA. Notably, 97.9% watch porn, 91.1% watch anal and 95.8% watch bareback porn though only 6.9% said watching bareback porn led to personally having unprotected sex. It's a fascinating read, and we urge you to go look-see. Some see it as a plus, a safe way to get turned on and explore our sexual fantasies and, in some cases, watch and learn to improve technique. There are many forms of porn including magazines, old school videos, DVDs, art, written stories, and most recently Internet websites and live-cam streaming.

However, we should make allowances for the grim and predictable storylines, over-sized dicks and seamless action - a far cry from reality. There are growing concerns that porn causes harm. For example, the dopamine your brain produces when you watch it (that's the "I like this" pleasure bit) will steer you back to watch more so there is potential for addiction.


What Happens When You Quit Porn? | AsapSCIENCE | 14 Oct 2021 | 8m 8s

Agree or disagree 
Go online and you will find a ton of pluses and minuses so MEN R US spunk monkeys have met over tea and biccies to pull together some statements to which you may agree or disagree.

  • Watching porn to cum is preferable to hooking-up for real.
  • Watching porn means you are more likely to demean and objectify gay men.
  • Watching porn creates unrealistic expectations of how we should perform sexually ourselves.
  • Watching porn is just a bit of fun, and I could easily never watch it again.
  • Watching porn that ticks our fantasy boxes can then make it difficult to be turned on by men in real life.
  • Watching porn creates problems with intimacy and confidence in our own lives.
  • Watching porn perpetuates an unhealthy industry that exploits and devalues men.
  • Watching porn is cheaper than dating.

Points to consider
Whether buying/ watching or making/ appearing in porn:

  • You can film and post porn in minutes but once it's out there you may never get it back
  • Be aware that some guys may have a webcam and be streaming live
  • Think carefully whether you want to be included in a porn vid, whether it’s for cash, through a hookup, or for self gratification. If you’re in doubt, don’t do it or discuss it with a sensible friend first
  • It may be appropriate to put away your porn library during family visits, particularly if they include inquisitive children. This can mean pictures, videos, magazines, photographs and books, some of which can be easy to forget. You may also wish to clear your Internet search history
  • If you have a camera connected to your computer left on it can be activated without you knowing
  • Taking porn through customs is still not advisable. If you’re caught, it’s usually confiscated
  • Be careful what you acquire – particularly off the internet. Some imagery, eg: extreme BDSM scenes and child pornography often result in heavy prison sentences
  • Magazines are still for men over 18 years old

The Science of Pornography Addiction (SFW) | AsapSCIENCE | 20 Feb 2013 | 3m 6s
Gay porn vs. real life | wickeykewl | 28 Sep 2017 | 4m 9s (starts at 1m 36s)
7 things you didn't know about porn! | Davey Wavey | 24 Feb 2013 | 4m 43s

‘The real thing almost didn’t turn me on enough’: how is online porn shaping the sex lives of young men? | The Guardian | 27 Jan 2024
UK porn watchers could have faces scanned | BBC News | 5 Dec 2023
Illegal pornography, abuse and exploitation to be investigated by new reviewer | GOV.UK | 1 Dec 2023
The 2022 Year in Review | Pornhub
What have we learned from 50 years of studying porn? ‘Heterosexuality is essentially broken’ | The Guardian | 2 Sep 2022
Even nuns watch porn, Pope says, warning of risks | BBC News | 27 Oct 2022
Half of adults in UK watched porn during pandemic, says Ofcom | The Guardian | 9 Jun 2021
 Pornhub removes millions of videos after investigation finds child abuse content | The Guardian | 14 Dec 2020
 The problem with banning pornography on Tumblr | New York Times | 6 Dec 2018
 Tumblr will ban all adult content on December 17th | The Verge | 3 Dec 2018
Is porn harmful? The evidence, the myths and the unknowns | BBC Future | 26 Sep 2017

MEN R US and porn

One of the most difficult components of building this website on a budget has been illustrating content. The majority of photographs are paid for via relatively inexpensive stock photos, but many used in MEN and SEX were sourced from Butch Dixon and UK Naked Men who have given us permission to use photos from various shoots. It's been immensely helpful as you're unlikely to get shots of rimming or cum from digital media libraries (we tried). Equally, there will be those who will raise an eyebrow as to why we have used this particular source material. 

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