Racism and gay men
"Racism of all kinds is always despicable but experiencing it from within the LGBTQ community can have a particularly negative impact on QTIPOC. In a world still often not accepting of LGBTQ people, QTIPOC also have to deal with discrimination in the community that should be there to support them. This can lead to isolation, loneliness, and poor mental health, on top of the direct impact of the racism, discrimination and violence they may experience. This is why it's so key that white people are more vocal about challenging racist behaviour within the LGBTQ community, even when QTIPOC aren’t around and when they do not feel able or safe to challenge it themselves."
Tackling common myths and misconceptions, and clarifying questions asked of QTIPOC (queer, trans and/or intersex people of colour) | Stonewall
Racism within the LGBTQ community | Stonewall
Why you might be guilty of white fragility | Stonewall
The importance of QTIPOC specific spaces | Stonewall
Using the terms BAME and PoC | Stonewall
Cultural appropriation and why it can be so damaging | Stonewall
The impact of tokenisation | Stonewall
The impact of microaggressions | Stonewall
What its really like for QTIPOC in relationships | Stonewall
The experiences of Muslim and LGBTQ people | Stonewall
The experiences of QTIPOC in the workplace | Stonewall
The experiences of QTIPOC navigating health services | Stonewall
What does intersectionality actually mean? | Stonewall
The difference between racism and institutional racism | Stonewall
The difference between racism and colourism | Stonewall
Three things you can do to be an ally to the QTIPOC community | Stonewall
Three surveys from GMFA about racism and gay men
Sexual racism is sexual discrimination or sex preference and prejudice based on a person's skin colour and/ or perceived ethnicity. It is one of the most psychologically damaging and mentally exhausting forms of racism on the gay scene, on gay scenes online, and around the world.
"Recently over 850 Black, White, Asian, South Asian, Arab and mixed-race gay men shared their thoughts on race and racism with GMFA. More than two-thirds of the men from the Black, Asian and other minority ethnic backgrounds had personally experienced racism on the scene."
Racism and the gay scene | GMFA FS #148
"Over 400 white gay men filled in a short survey for GMFA who asked for their honest thoughts on racism on the gay scene – whether they discriminate against other races, whether they have ever experienced racism themselves, and their general thoughts about preference vs. racism."
Dear white gay men (Survey) | GMFA FS #148
"Of course not all white gay men are racist. Many of the men in the survey were shocked and outraged by instances of racism they had observed on the scene. However, there were also plenty of examples of casual racism in some of the responses from the white guys in the survey. And we were surprised by some examples of more overt racism."
I’m black but you still have to ask for consent | GMFA | FS #162#
Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic LGBT+ Organisations
Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic LGBT+ Organisations | MEN R US
Black Lives Matter
Black Lives Matter | MEN R US
BAME Voices from Stonewall
Visibility | BAME Voices | Stonewall | 27 Nov 2018 | 2m 21s
Race | BAME Voices | Stonewall | 27 Nov 2018 | 3m 33s
Culture | BAME Voices | Stonewall | 27 Nov 2018 | 2m 53s
Religion | BAME Voices | Stonewall | 27 Nov 2018 | 4m 40s
Gender | BAME Voices | Stonewall | 27 Nov 2018 | 5m 28s
Accessing health services
In March 2015, Guy’s and St Thomas’ published a report dealing with the sexual health, mental health, access to services and social issues of Black, Latino and other minority groups. The report found:
- Racism on the gay scene
- Black gay men found racism on the gay scene to outweigh homophobia within Black communities
- Black men often feel they are sexualised and objectified and used as ‘accessories’ for white men
- They are presumed to have large cocks and to be sexually aggressive
- They feel like they are not recognised as a whole person, and once the sex is over they are discarded
- In contrast Latino gay men found stereotypes, such as being ‘hot lovers’ to be a positive thing
- Both groups expressed the view that the gay scene is segmented and elitist and this can have an impact on their self-esteem
More stories on film
Creating your own space to be black and gay
Lee Gray came out to his traditional Caribbean family in an unusual manner but thankfully they were welcoming of his decision to come out. However, Lee is well aware that his experience isn’t the norm across the black community and has set up a podcast helping black people navigate through the world of LGBTQ. His advice? Create your own space to be the person that you want to be.
Creating your own space to be black and gay | HuffPost | 6 Feb 2019 | 5m 5s
Beyond labels: what does it mean to be Black and gay in the UK?
What does it mean to be Black and gay in the UK? Back in 2010, GMFA explored the life experiences of a group of men who all too often have been rendered invisible in history and stigmatised by their own communities because of their sexuality and race.
Beyond abels: what does it mean to be Black and gay in the UK? | LGBT HERO | 7 Aug 2018 | 57m 48s
White, Gay, and Confronting Racism | Matthew J Dempsey | 21 Nov 2016 | 10m 29s
Is there racism in the gay community | Kyle Krieger | 30 Aug 2016 | 8m 37s
You're really sweet, I'm just not into Black guys | ImFromDriftwood | 31 Dec 2014 | 4m 40s
Racism and the gay community | rh2ac | 13 Jan 2015 | 7m 30s
Race | The Grindr guide (Ep. 4) | 6 Mar 2013 | 2m 35s
Racist dating profiles | Davey Wavey | 10 Feb 2013 | 2m 11s
Wolves in the City
Wolves in the City is a podcast for black men who are exploring their sexuality in the city. Hosted by Youtube Presenter Lee Gray, Grime Artist Karnage Kills and DJ Jay Jay Revlon. This podcast is not suitable for the workplace. You have been warned.
Wolves in the City | Podcast | Lee Gray, Karnage Kills and Jay Jay Revlon