Tips for finding and making friends
In preping this section, one of our younger volunteers told us about his father who is a teacher, now retired. As you can imagine, he met many people, young and old, who were shy, reserved, anxious and nervous. The top tip he passed on to his son about making friends ... or at least getting a conversation going with a stranger ... is to find out a person's passion or hobby and get them to talk about it ... whether it's sci-fi, abseiling, stamp collecting, or drag. It's a great way to break the ice and who knows where it might lead.
The gay thing
For some, our sexuality ... and whether we disclose it or not to others ... is not an issue while others prefer to meet other LGBT+ people. If you'd rather not go to bars and clubs (or use apps) get involved in something socially. Check out our Get Out and Active directory.
It can also be easier ... and less stressful ... to make friends by not approaching it head-on, rather find an activity which you can enjoy with like-minded people, the focus being the activity rather than being in "I need a friend" mode.
We have lists ...
Top tips for making friends on the Internet are broadly similar but we've pulled together several lists which caught our eye:
7 ways to meet guys that don’t involve Grindr or gay bars | GMFA
- Talk to strangers
- Play sport
- Go to the gym
- Take risks
7 ways to meet guys that don’t involve Grindr or gay bars7 ways to meet guys that don’t involve Grindr or gay bars | GMFA
How to make friends as an adult in 4 simple steps | Huff Post
- Start by getting to know yourself
- Develop your physical and emotional resources
- Chase your passions, not people
- Be proactive and invite people into your life
How to make friends as an adult in 4 simple steps | Huff Post | 6 Dec 2017
Seven hilarious ways Londoners make friends, as told by Redditors | Time Out
- Go to a meetup
- Try dating apps
- Take up sports
- Join a club
- Drink, party and rock 'n' roll
- Form a support group
- Or, just follow these bits of advice
Seven hilarious ways Londoners make friends, as told by Redditors | Time Out | 3 Oct 2016
Top tips for making friends | Childline (children and young people up to their 19th birthday)
- Find things to share
- Use your body language
- Get out there
- Starting conversations
- Give a compliment
Top tips for making friends | Childline, for children and young people up to their 19th birthday
Problems making friends | BBC Radio 1
- Talk to everyone
- Use body language
- Choose your friends wisely
- Be a good listener
- Have the courage of your convictions
Problems making friends | BBC Radio 1
Meeting apps/ platforms
There are a ton of apps and platforms encouraging us to meet people. The reason why we have highlighted Meetup and Eventbrite is that their focus is on meeting people in real life in the real world rather than perpetuating relationships and friendships online. Also, they both have LGBT sections. Our list is short (!) so clearly not exhaustive but let us know if there are any we should add.
Meetup | Meetup
"Getting together with real people in real life makes powerful things happen. Side hustles become careers, ideas become movements, and chance encounters become lifelong connections. Meetup brings people together to create thriving communities." Meetup.
Eventbrite | Eventbrite
"Eventbrite is the world's largest event technology platform. We build the technology to allow anyone to create, share, find and attend new things to do that fuel their passions and enrich their lives. Music festivals, venues, marathons, conferences, hackathons, air guitar contests, political rallies, fundraisers, gaming competitions — you name it, we power it. Our mission? To bring the world together through live experiences." Eventbrite.