- If you’re going to fuck make sure you have condoms and lube to hand and remove all pets and ex-boyfriends from the area!
- Checking the use-by date first, take the rubber out of its wrapper avoiding sharp/jagged finger nails, teeth and cheap jewellery.
- With a thumb and forefinger pinch the end of the condom as this will get rid of the air and make room for the cum.
- Make sure it’s not upside down or you won’t be going anywhere!
- Roll it all the way down your dick. A hard dick makes this easier to do but it may go soft at this point. Simply work up some steam and – using a new condom, try again later.
- Place some lube on a finger or two and gently work it up his arsehole. He’ll get more pleasure if he’s relaxed and the condom is less likely to tear.
- Smother your dick with lube and ask him if he’s ready before putting it up his arse.
- Enter slowly, checking he's OK. If you go in quickly you could hurt him. Once inside, off you go… checking occasionally to see that the condom is still in place and intact.
- When you’ve finished, hold the condom at the base of your dick before pulling out. You don’t want to lose it up his arse do you?
- Condoms do make a difference: You can’t feel as much and they can be awkward to use, BUT using them with lube every time you get fucked or fuck greatly reduces the risk of HIV infection and other STIs.
- Condoms help protect against other sexually transmitted infections including gonorrhoea, syphilis, herpes, hepatitis, and NSU.
- Wanking with condoms can also improve your technique and get you used to the idea/feel of using them.
- Don’t leave condoms lying around for children to find as there is a risk of suffocation! Knot it, wrap it in a tissue or loo roll and bin it. (Not down the toilet, it may well bob back up).
- Take a break... put on the kettle... leave… start again... or fall asleep in his arms.
Condoms: 9 common mistakes
- Not checking the condom packet for damage: Condoms can easily get damaged, especially if they’ve been kept in a wallet, pocket, or bag. Condoms that are damaged won’t protect you from STIs and pregnancy
- Not checking the expiry date: Condoms that are out of date won’t protect you from STIs
- Putting the condom on after sex has started: You need to wear a condom before you start having sex in order for it to do its job. If you leave it to the last minute and only put a condom on just before you come (ejaculate) you're NOT protected from STIs. If you do this, fluids are likely to have already been exchanged
- Not holding the tip when applying the condom: When you put a condom on, it’s important to squeeze the tip, to get rid of any air. If you don't, the condom is likely to break
- Putting the condom on the wrong way up, then turning it over: Putting the condom on the wrong way round (so it won't roll down) is a common mistake, especially if it's dark! But if you do this, it's really important that you bin that condom and start again with a new one. Don't be tempted to just turn it over because the outside of the condom will have touched the penis and so leaves your partner exposed to the risk of pregnancy and/or STIs. Get another condom out and start again
- Taking the condom off before sex is over: Whenever your genital or anal areas are in contact, you should use a condom, to prevent the risk of STI. This includes after you've come (ejaculated)
- Using a condom that’s been in a wallet or bag for more than one month: Condoms can get warm when in a wallet or bag and this damages them. If they've been in there for more than one month, they are not safe to use. Carrying them with you is a great habit though, so just make sure you replace it at least once a month!
- Not holding the base of the condom when withdrawing the penis: This can cause the condom to come off, which means you’re at risk of pregnancy and/or STIs
- Using oil-based lubricants with condoms (such as Vaseline or moisturiser): Using lubricant is a great idea, but make sure it’s water-based (such as K.Y. Jelly or Durex Play). Other products, not intended for sex, are often oil-based and can eat into condoms, causing them to break.
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Rapid rise in PrEP linked to drop in condom use
"A rapid rise in the takeup of pills to prevent HIV infection in some parts of Australia has been accompanied by a steep drop in the numbers of men using condoms during sex with other men whether or not they are on the protective drugs, a major study has shown.
Pre-exposure prophylaxis, or PrEP, has been hailed as a game-changer in the Aids epidemic, but the Australian experience suggests the availability of once-a-day pills that reliably prevent transmission of the virus may play a part in complacency about the chances of becoming infected.
But experts say PrEP is not solely responsible. Condom use among gay and bisexual men has been declining for some time. One of the reasons will be the knowledge, thanks to research, that men who are on a cocktail of HIV drugs do not pass the virus on during sex.
However, the new study, published in the Lancet HIV journal, raises serious questions about the introduction of PrEP in developing countries with high levels of infection without a strong package of educational support to encourage condom use."
Extract from Rapid rise in anti-HIV PrEP pills linked to drop in condom use | The Guardian | 6 Jun 2018