Coming out to others
Coming out at work
Some of us prefer not to discuss our personal lives at work – it’s got nothing to do with why we’re there and it’s as straightforward as that. However, human nature being what it is, colleagues often guess or find out, particularly if you don’t talk about ‘her’ or get involved in the ‘who shagged who on Saturday night’ office gossip. For other guys, feeling able to be themselves and chat about what they did at the weekend – perhaps with a boyfriend – is an important part of who they are.
While it may be possible to gauge the kind of response you’ll get, the only way to find out for certain is to come out again – but, in this instance, to the people you work with. Furthermore, there are some circumstances where coming out can seriously affect your job security and promotion prospects. The bottom line is being careful and seeking advice first.
In a nutshell, trade unions represent people at work. They protect their members, making sure that workplaces are safe, and that pay is fair. For these reasons join one, but particularly if you experience discrimination, harassment or unfavourable treatment at work. There are many trade unions in the UK but here are a handful you may have heard of:
- Unite is Britain's biggest union with 1.42 million members in every type of workplace
- Unison represents public services staff, although they may be employed in both the public and private sectors
- National Union of Teachers (NUT) represents teachers in the UK
- National Union of Students (NUS) is a confederation of 600 students' unions, representing the interests of more than 7 million students
- Royal College of Nursing (RCN) represents nurses
- British Medical Association (BMA) is the trade union and professional body for doctors in the UK
List of trade unions in the United Kingdom | Wikipedia
Challenges for LGBT people in the workplace and how to overcome them The Guardian | 28 Jul 2014
LGBT employees who feel unable to come out at work more likely to leave their jobs - and cost business millions The Independent 3 May 2015