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Sofa surfing

Sofa surfing with friends, acquaintances, or even strangers can be an only choice/ essential short-term solution but can be risky, especially for LGBT+ individuals and those in vulnerable situations.

Providing guidance like this is relatively easy but none of this is easy for you, especially if you are always tired, always vigilant, always fighting for a little space that you can call your own – even if it’s temporary. It becomes especially difficult when you need to think clearly when you might be confused, anxious or easily agitated, or problematic drug use or addiction is in play.

Safety

• Stay with people you trust – choose friends, family, or acquaintances where possible
• Know your exit plan – always have a backup plan if the situation becomes unsafe
• Avoid staying with strangers alone – try and research the host and arrange to meet in a public place first

Essentials

• Have a ‘Go Bag’ ready – pack essentials like ID, phone, charger, money, medication, and important documents
• Keep valuables with you – avoid leaving personal items unattended and/ or in unfamiliar places
• Store emergency contacts in your phone – have trusted people’s numbers written down in case your phone dies

Boundaries

• Communicate clearly – be upfront about how long you need to stay and what you’re comfortable with
• Avoid pressure or unsafe situations – if a host expects sex, drugs, or unpaid work in exchange for a place to stay, leave if you feel uncomfortable
• Trust your gut – if something feels wrong, don’t ignore your instincts

Sexploitation

• Sexploitation occurs when drugs are used to manipulate, control, or exploit individuals sexually, often in ways they did not or could not fully consent to. In relation to this content, this can include being exploited for housing, drugs, or money in exchange for sex but also includes being pressured into sex under the influence of drugs; sexual coercion or non-consensual filming while intoxicated or unconscious; and violence, sexual assault, or group sex scenes where individuals are abused while incapacitated.

Manage your health and well-being

• Maintain hygiene where possible – carry basic toiletries and fresh clothes
• Stay on top of medications – if you’re on PrEP, HIV medication, or any regular prescriptions, keep them accessible
• Get rest when you can – sofa surfing can be exhausting, so take opportunities to sleep safely

Stay connected

• Tell someone where you are – even if you’re moving between places, check in with a friend or support worker
• Use LGBT+ or housing charities – organisations like Stonewall Housing, Crisis, and Shelter UK offer guidance and emergency help
• Locate local drop-in centres – places like LGBT+ support centers, night shelters, or food banks can provide resources if needed

Plan for change

• Look for stable housing options – consider emergency hostels, shared housing schemes, or council housing assistance
• Check eligibility for housing benefits – in the UK, you may be entitled to Universal Credit, housing benefits, or LGBT+ housing support services
• Seek employment or financial support – if work is a challenge, charities can help with grants, job applications, and legal advice